Second: Although I wasn’t going to get into the working vs stay at home argument, I started thinking about your question – “Are we really still so prejudiced against women that the perception of a man being treated like a woman causes so much fear?” and I realize that they are related. Some Christian denominations subscribe to the “separate spheres” theory of marriage – Man is superior to woman, man is head of the family, man goes out in the world and earns money, woman stays home and works in servitude to the family. In the American fight for suffrage there were cartoons and essays insinuating that if women were given the vote, then men would one day have to (gasp!) tend to the children. A man, gay or straight, who willingly puts himself in this position is viewed with suspicion.

I think it is this separate spheres attitude, rather than homosexuality, that leads to more divorce than people are willing to admit. Consider that the American Bible Belt has a much higher divorce rate than the more secular and more partnership-oriented Northeast. I think gay families lean more toward partnership. That in itself may be threatening.

I applaud any couple who sacrifices luxury (more money) in favor of a better upbringing for their kids, so if you and your friends fit in that category, bravo!

Having a parent stay home with the kids would do many orders of magnitude more good for society than anything they could say about homosexuality.